He looked like he was going to snatch the purse of the woman in front of him. His pants hung half way down his hind end, a hoodie, not quite over his head, hid his eyes, and the studded chain said it all, thug. I want sure whether to step in now and stop the thief or wait for the crime and run him down (I was younger then). It happened fast, and if not for my keen wits, I would have missed the whole escaped.
Thursday, November 29, 2018
Blind Eye and Half Deaf
He looked like he was going to snatch the purse of the woman in front of him. His pants hung half way down his hind end, a hoodie, not quite over his head, hid his eyes, and the studded chain said it all, thug. I want sure whether to step in now and stop the thief or wait for the crime and run him down (I was younger then). It happened fast, and if not for my keen wits, I would have missed the whole escaped.
A Blind Eye and Half Deaf
Wednesday, November 28, 2018
If I Could Not Do It All Over Again....
- Have learned to dance. I took Rebecca to a two hour, private ballroom dance lesson. We danced once after that, and no, it’s not because I think dancing is evil.
- Have learned to fly. I have several reoccurring dreams and the most exillerating is the one where I lean as far forward as I can until my feet move so fast that I take off, aided with flapping arms. Once in the air I can soar as free as a bird. These is something about flying that sets you free.
- Have traveled before ministry and kids. We were so serious to change the world, that we missed opportunities just to see the world and spend time together.
I have walked in the rain, holding the hand of my sweetheart, and kissed her under a full moon. I have argued with her, and been infuriated, only to know the sweetness of reconciliation. She brings the best out of me, and helps me navigate the darker side of my soul.
Gratitude Schmatitude — What’s The Big Deal
- For the saving love of Jesus, and the life giving Spirit that dwells in me.
- For my wife, who is the living example of Christ’s love in my life.
- For my children, daughter-in-laws, grandchildren, and Abrar (my Bahraini daughter) who are the joy of my life.
- For a church family (warts and all) who is willing to walk through this messy life together, offering grace, expressing love, and chastising when appropriate.
- For the means to live comfortably and to bless others when needed.
- The freedom of liberty that our country enjoys by the grace of God.
(Backup) Gratitude Schmatitude — What’s The Big Deal
Thursday, November 22, 2018
What I am Thanful for—the grandnephews and nieces
What are you thankful for?
Wednesday, November 21, 2018
Dogs Do, What Dogs Do
“This is an evil in all that is done under the sun, that the same event happens to all. Also, the hearts of the children of man are full of evil, and madness is in their hearts while they live, and after that they go to the dead. But he who is joined with all the living has hope, for a living dog is better than a dead lion” Eccl. 9:3,4.
“The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance” 2 Peter 3:9.
Tuesday, November 20, 2018
What I Should Have Said
God’s will is immutable. God’s will is omnipotent. God’s will is omniscient. God’s will is all powerful. God’s will is holy. God’s will is righteous. God’s will is pure. God’s will is true. God’s will is just. God’s will is good. God’s will is pervasive. As such, God’s will doesn’t need our help, unless he asks for it, and whatever God’s will is, we can’t thwart it. So if Paul let’s someone make a decision, no matter the outcome, God’s will will be accomplished, either now or in the future. Paul said, “God works all things together for good, to those who are called according to His purpose.” The problem arises when there are multiple decisions that are conflicting. It’s mind boggling to think that God works it all together. All we have to do is to open our eyes to see God’s hand at work. Maybe what we need to do in order to see God’s hand at work, is to open ours, and let go…I’m just saying.
Friday, November 16, 2018
One Man, One Hour, God’s Glory
Each of us face a moment in which we chose to walk down one of two given roads. The proverbial fork in the road. The one you chose will shape you the rest of your life. The only sure thing is that whichever road you chose, it needs to be God’s best for you. That takes wisdom, counsel, and fortitude, because once you chose the evil one wants nothing more than to cause you stumble. If you do stumble, you are likely to stumble alone, unless your are blessed with friends who will walk the tough road with you. Be of good cheer, Jesus never leaves or forsakes us. What type of person will you be today? What road will you chose? Who will you take with you. I’m just saying...
Thursday, November 15, 2018
Slaying Monsters
Imagine standing at the mouth of a very large cave. You had heard the stories, and they must have been true, for surely in just the telling of them, made them even more real. True or false the cave stood before you like the mouth of the monster itself. Why, you thought out loud, would anyone want to enter the cave in the first place. There must be more noble endeavors to keep oneself occupied. Yet, there you stood, sword in hand. It felt light in your grip, at least for a moment. The fine carved stick soon weighed as heavy as any real sword, of any real knight.
Wednesday, November 14, 2018
Itchy Palms, I Mean Crazy Itchy Palms
On the way back to the church it started, and I wasn’t sure if I would make it. The intestinal distress came on like a flood, and when I jumped out of the truck...let’s just say casual greetings and pleasant helloes were not first on my agenda. Then all was well. Until I was sitting talking with a coworker. The palms of my hands began to itch. I mean, get down, rub off the skin itchy. Pointed in the direction of the kitchen I grabbed the benedryl anti itching stick and rubbed it all over the palms of my hands. Suffice it to say, it did little to help. I then soaked my hands in hot water, and the itching eventually subsided, along with the intestinal distress. We called the restaurant and asked for the sauce ingredients, nothing unusual there. It remains a mystery, but there is a superstition surrounding itchy palms. According to “budgets are sexy.com” the following could be an answer.
Well, it was payday and I did pay some bills. Both palms were equally itchy, so I guess my finances will equal out. They usually do. “Why should a fool have money in his hand to buy wisdom when he has no sense?” (Proverbs 17:16). All I know is that constant, intense itching would be a horrible way to live or die. Next time I will try the wood...I’m just saying.There’s an old superstition that when your palms itch it means money. An itching left palm means money to be paid out, while an itching right palm is money coming in. To stop the left palm from itching, the superstition says to rub the palm on a piece of wood.
There may be something to this old tale, since itching palms often show new internal energy moving through the hands. The left hand is the passive or receptive, and the right is the active. When the left palm itches, look for new energy or services coming into your life – Of course this will probably cost you some money. The right palm itching means energy or services going out – Work you might get paid for.
Touching or rubbing wood is a very old method for transferring or releasing unwanted energy buildup (thus expressions like “touch wood”), so if your left palm itches, try rubbing it on the corner of a table – If you don’t get a splinter, perhaps you’ll save some money!
Tuesday, November 13, 2018
FRANK Has Left The Building
Tuesday, November 6, 2018
Whispers, Lies, and Forgotten Rainbows
Every single lie that tells me I will never measure up
Am I more than just the sum of every high and every low?
Remind me once again just who I am, because I need to know (ooh oh)
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
You say I am held when I am falling short
When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours
And I believe (I), oh I believe (I)
What You say of me (I)
I believe
In You I find my worth, in You I find my identity, (ooh oh)
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
And You say I am held when I am falling short
When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours
And I believe (I), oh I believe (I)
What You say of me (I)
Oh, I believe
You have every failure God, and You'll have every victory, (ooh oh)
You say I am strong when I think I am weak
You say I am held when I am falling short
When I don’t belong, oh You say that I am Yours
And I believe (I), oh I believe (I)
What You say of me (I)
I believe
What You say of me (I)
Oh I believe (oh)
Saturday, November 3, 2018
The Value Of Nothing
Nothing, sometimes, even tastes good. I was walking through the market looking for Apple juice (healthy) and came upon a ben with different Hostess products (unhealthy). There on top lay the most wonderful of all treats, Twinkie’s! You might think this silly, but I grew up on twinkies, back before I turned 30 and could eat anything without gaining weight. Twinkies have nothing of virtue in them accept pure deliciousness. What more could one ask for? “Do you want the twinkies in a bage,” The ckerk asked. Are you joking, put such Heavenly delicacies in a bag where they can be crushed? Would you throw a carton of eggs in the bottom and cast can goods on top? How ridiculous! “No, thank you,” I answered. Twinkies are full of nothing, and yet they can bring such joy.
- Nothing can stop God from blessing us, Numbers 22:11
- Nothing can keep God from providing for our needs, Deut 8:8-10
- Nothing can hinder God from saving, 1 Sam. 14:6
- Nothing is impossible when God’s involved, Mart. 17:20,21
- Nothing is impossible with God, Luke 1:27.
- Nothing should be expected in return, when doing good, Luke 6:35
- Nothing will hurt us when God sends us out. Luke 10:19
- Nothing good dwells in my flesh, Romans 7:18
- Nothing is lacking when we all share, 2 Cor. 8:15
- Nothing should be done with selfish ambition and deceit. Phil 2:3
- Nothing was brought into this world, and we will take nothing out, 1 Tim. 6:7
- Nothing can separate us from the love of God In Christ,
Life Is Short And Death Is Sure
The orange leaves rustle in the wind; unfixed they flutter to the ground. Yellow, red, orange, green and the artist splashes color against His canvas until the masterpiece is finished. But, then again, it is never finished as Spring bursts forth life from the dreary cold of winter. Summer’s lush greens fight through a mixture of wet and dry until the earth, beaten and bruised, once again, stumbles into Fall. Silently the leaves fall to the ground like the tears of a battered spouse.
The second point is that no matter how much we try and cheat the pain of a fallen world, two things remain true, “life is shorter than we realize, and death comes to all.” This sounds drab and tiring, but it’s not. If not for the groaning there would be no rejoicing, if not for the usual there wouldn’t be the fantastic. In the midst of our groaning we wait eagerly for our adoption and our redemption (not of our souls, but of our bodies). When Jesus returns we will see glory for what it truly is, for we will see Jesus face to face. Until then, we need to be about our Father’s business of calling the world to follow Jesus, and helping them grow into his image. We are part of the tapestry the artist is painting.
Friday, November 2, 2018
Running With The Big Dogs and Falling Behind
9 REASONS IT’S HARD TO ATTEND A CHURCH ONCE YOU’VE BEEN INVOLVED IN LEADING ONE
If you’ve struggled with this feeling before, ask yourself whether any of these 9 reasons might be part of your struggle:
1. YOUR IDENTITY IS TIED TO WHAT YOU DO, NOT WHO YOU ARE
So who are you really? A preacher? A musician? A worship leader? A student director? An elders? An usher? A group leader? A staff member?
No you’re not.
You’re a child of God redeemed by a Saviour who came for you.
So many of us define who we are by what we do. I struggle against this every day.
Before you dismiss this, do this simple test that Tim Keller offers.
“If work [or ministry] is your idol, if you are successful it goes to your head, if you are a failure it goes to your heart.”
Boom. Maybe your identity is more tied up in what you do than you think.
2. YOU LIKE BEING THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
As Andy Stanley says, anyone who’s ever strapped on a microphone is a little like Lady Gaga; we all live for the applause. Come to think of us, many of us don’t need a mic for that.
Could it be that you’ve grown accustomed to being the center of attention, no matter how small your audience might be?
Often my decision that something doesn’t fit ‘me’ is far more a statement about me than it is about whatever I’m uncomfortable with.
3. YOU’VE SEEN HOW THE SAUSAGE IS MADE AND HAVE LOST YOUR APPETITE
Yep. Church is messy, flawed, disappointing and at times deeply hurtful.
Largely because people are messy, flawed, disappointing and at times deeply hurtful. And we live on this side of heaven.
Hurt, unresolved, breeds cynicism. And there are so many cynical former church attenders who simply haven’t addressed their unresolved issues.
Part of maturity involves realizing that I contribute to messy sausage making. I am part of the problem. And so is almost every leader who has abandoned church.
Jesus never said we would be known for our perfection. But he did say we would be known by our love.
Love owns my share. Love forgives. Love says I’m sorry. Love reconciles. Love works toward a better tomorrow.
Love sees who you really are and stays anyway.
4. YOU’VE BECOME MORE OF A CRITIC THAN A WORSHIPPER
This one’s hard. Once you’ve been on the inside, you listen ‘at’ a sermon as much as you listen ‘to’ a message.
You ask “What’s he doing here? Why did he make that transition this way? What’s up with his body language?”
Musicians critique the music. Guest services people criticize greeters. Graphic design people laugh at other designs.
And lead pastors critique everything.
What’s missing in this picture?
Humility. Submission. Grace. That’s all.
5. YOU THINK YOU’RE BETTER OR SMARTER THAN THE PEOPLE WHO MERELY ATTEND
This one’s ugly.
I don’t know what else to say about it except stop it. Really.
Okay one more thing. So maybe you are smart. Or more successful. Got that.
If you think you’re too important to help someone, stop fooling yourself. You’re not that important.
6. SOMEWHERE IN THE PROCESS, YOUR PERSONAL WALK WITH GOD TANKED
Leadership is best when it springs from the overflow of our personal walk with God.
There are many ways unusual church leader struggle with God (I wrote about 5 of them here), but just because you lost your closeness to God while leading in a church doesn’t mean church is bad.
He loves you, and He loves the church in all of its weakness.
7. YOU’VE FORGOTTEN YOU’RE A FOLLOWER, NOT JUST A LEADER
Originally all of us got into ministry after we decided to become followers of Jesus. That following should never stop.
The best leaders are actually the best followers.
A leader who can only lead but not follow is actually not a great leader. And certainly not a godly leader.
8. YOU’RE NEGLECTING THE FACT THAT YOU STILL HAVE A ROLE TO PLAY
I know it’s cliche, but the goal is not to attend church or go to church. You are the church.
But, for reasons outlined here, I think the church is so much stronger when we are together, not when we are apart.
While we can all use some rehab in a back row of a church somewhere from season to season, ultimately, every follower of Christ has a role to play in the local church. Even if it’s not your favourite role or a role you’re used to.
Being involved is one of the best ways to stay engaged, even if it’s not what you used to do or want to do.
9. ‘WHY’ HAS DIED ON THE ALTAR OF ‘WHAT’ AND ‘HOW’
Church leadership is a lot of ‘what’ and ‘how’. I find I have to remind myself daily of the ‘why’ of church.
Why?
- Because God is good.
- Because he loves us.
- Because Jesus gave his life for a world he desperately loves.
- Because our cities are full of people who don’t know the love of Christ.
- Because my life is not my own.
- Because the church was Jesus’ idea.
- Because grace ultimately makes all things new.
So does that help? I realize these reasons will not address every issue, and that some will flail against any organized church no matter what is said.
But so many leave unnecessarily. Maybe you’re one of them. If any of these reasons are true, what will you do about them?
I know that working through them has kept my passion and hope for the local church strong, even if it flickers in the wind some days
Things That Go Bump In The Night
This expression comes from The Cornish or West Country Litany : ‘From ghoulies and ghosties and long-leggety beasties and things that go bump in the night, Good Lord deliver us!’ Like the little boy who preferred his mother over prayer to shield him against things that go bump in the night, I too, prefer "God with the skin on.”
Secondly, God has provided us skin to give comfort and hope to the lost and hurting of the world. As his body, we bring the name of Jesus to bear against the fear mongers, the haters, the contentious among us. It is God’s love that drives out fear, because in his love he has conquered sin and death.